The word yoga itself implies relationship, and the two becoming one. You begin with you and and your lover, or your body and mind, or ultimately your sense of individuality merging into cosmic unity. You strive for yoga- union, which you experience as wonderful and sublime.
That sounds like love, doesn’t it?
When people ask me about my own practice of yoga I say how yoga permeates everything I do, from the way I eat, to the way I work, my relationships. One of the best fields for experiencing yoga is inside sexual relationship because of the inherant energy of sex. Sex energy can be channeled up for spirituality or down for a simple physical orgasm. Or both. It’s all what you do with it. I consider myself fortunate to have this body and nervous system, and I want to make the most of it during this lifetime.
The right side of your body and the breathing represents the male force whereas the left represents the feminnine. When the prana flows up the central channel of the spine, and both sides of your nose is open equally, your mind is in perfect balance. No male. No female. No duality. The aim of sex and the pulsation of life is the same. We find polarity, feel it’s attractive pull on our psyche and merge with it until we unconsciously absorb that which we are seeking.
In Vedic idea, the masculine energy is the stillness of stainless witness consciousness; called “purusha”. The feminine is the multitude of whatever is viewed, observed, experienced, known, that what is changing… called “prakriti”. It’s simple: if you observe anything, internally or externally, a thought or an object, a dream or a smell, it is the cosmic feminine. The aspect of you who observes, “sees”, and just sees, without analysis, without judgement, without thought, is the masculine. Purusha and prakriti are eternally separate at the apparent level, but at the ultimate level there is only one. In yoga we call this Shiva.
Yet what makes things attractive is polarity. Purusha and Prakriti remain in a continuous love embrace. Purusha continually watches Prakriti and Prakriti strives to be viewed by Purusha. The whole universe is making love where the seen meets the seer. Can you think of the analogies?
What makes your lover attractive is polarity. This arc of polarity is what makes the energy of life, and also to produce life. The masculine and feminine seek each other out to find out what they feel they have been missing. Your lover is that polarity, what you unconsciously seek in the life journey. Ultimately however, you realize within your own Self all that you have been seeking.
In sex, we attempt to join together physically but I would like to say this is only the starting point. Efforts to join, merge together in yoga should be done through yoga techniques. The two of you consciously merge together to a state of nondual awareness, inside of orgasm, using the sexual polarity as the two that must have yoga. As stated before, the male and female are really within your own self, but it may take a few lifetimes of yoga practice to realize this, and to realize the aim of nondual awareness. In the meantime, experencing the bliss to be found through spiritual and sexual yoga will evolve you spiritually, in the same way asana and pranayama works. It’s all experienced within YOU.
Here is one technique to start with, and I will add more in upcoming posts
Tantric breathing
Warning! Don’t practice these techniques with someone you are casually having an affair with, unless you want the relationship to accelerate. It’s one thing to have sex physically which (this could be argued) one can walk away from and forget the other person within a short while, and it’s another to have sex on an energetic and spiritual level. While taking it higher opens up possibilities, it also potentially deepens the karmic connections you form with the other. Just so you know 
The masculine person lays on his left side with his left arm outstretched as a pillow for his left ear. The feminine person lays on her right side, belly to belly. Begin to harmonize your breaths, so that when one inhales, the other exhales. Start to visualize that the feminine exhaled breath exits the left side of her nose (it will after a few moments) and is inhaled into the right nostril of the man and then in exchange the opposite way. It’s like the man sends his solar energy into the lunar woman and the woman sends her lunar energy into the solar aspect of the male.
Once this is established, you can open your eyes and use your left eye to gaze into your partners left eye and meditate in this way. Practice this for a few minutes and I think you’ll surprise yourself how intense and… hmm… this can become.
More on this later… Have a lovely day.
3 responses so far ↓
1 TC // Jan 12, 2008 at 10:34 pm
Just wanted to make a comment that I read somewhere sexual intercourse is in many scriptures described as karma mudra, the seal of karma. It seals a strong karmic bond between the partners, regardless of how casual the relationship because the karmic bond is formed through a connection of the subtle bodies of the two partners. Apparently, Swami Shivananda went as far to say that for every affair, we will be reborn to satisfy that person throughout a marital life. There you go, more food for thought.
2 Christopher Gladwell // Jan 13, 2008 at 4:01 am
Beautiful and also a little expansion perhaps would be that pingala nadi the solar nadi is no the same as purusha is it? In the Hatha tradition ida and pingale represent duality and sushumna is the view of Shiva that is uniicatory consciousness, the realised connection between Prana Shakti and her consort Shiva is Sushumna and fro sushumna to flow the grantihs that represent attachment in the three realms have to be pierced.
For attachment to even begin to be processed the ida and pingala nadis have to be purified, the solar and lunar nadis represent what we do with our minds to reality. It is this mental fabrication that is our expereince of duality that needs to be purified. To imply that the solar nadi is the same as witness consciousness is a little misleading my friend.
It is when kundalini reaches ajna chakra that ida and pingala dissolve and the petals of ajna represent this metaphorical unification of masculine and feminine that until then remain in dualisitic distortion. Even after this point, there arises further awareness as Kosmic intelligence as saharara, the heart nadi, brahmarandra and kundalini all unite in anusandhana the realisation of the absolute unity of the unstruck sound. Its all there in the Hatha Yoga Pradipika my friends. Peace and Eternal Love. Christopher aka ……..
www.radikalfreedom.com
3 Adrian Cox // Jan 13, 2008 at 3:01 pm
Great post TC. I’ve heard Guruji saying that each marriage then leads to a whole progression of marriages (hundreds of lifetimes) to the same person! Is the solution to have no involvement lifetime after lifetime? Seems like there’s no way out!
I always felt that there was more going on in the way of connection in the random hook up, but I think that there is a way to control it. The book “Pleiadian Workbook” gives way to manage one’s karmic obligations to others through visualization. It’s a bit of a strange book in some ways, but the teachings on that aspect in particular have been really super useful, both for present and past connections.
Leave a Comment